FIVE THINGS I HAVE LEARNED ABOUT FRIENDSHIPS
One. Friendships come and go. There are so many reasons why we become friends and just as many reasons why you are no longer friends. The key is to have no grudges and make sure all is well between you two. So when you notice you are not close with someone like you used to, do a friend status check by having a friendly conversation and seeing if you have done anything to cause the distance. Be confident no matter what happens. We don’t need to beat ourselves up inside because we assume we are unlikeable. Like I said, there are a many reasons why friendships end and it takes two to end one.
Two. Following Jesus changes the people you will call friends. When you choose to follow Jesus you are choosing a radical lifestyle that is in complete contradiction to the ways of this world. The path of Jesus brings new friends into your life, ones who are also following Jesus.
Three. Friendships are usually happening naturally like they are in auto-pilot. The problem with friendships in auto-pilot is they don’t work on their weaknesses. Believe it or not, friendships struggle and have areas that need growth. Be the best friend you can be and work on being a better friend. The key to good friendships is humility, prayer, accountability and following the example of Jesus Christ (number five). What I’m trying to say is…love your friend from your heart not from habit.
Four. One day, your best friend will be your spouse in marriage. My wife and I, are best friends. We know the worst and the best things about each other. My wife knows my strengths and my struggles and it is nice to know that we can share our deepest passions and feelings because we never plan to separate what God has joined.
Five. Jesus is the greatest friend of all. Jesus told his disciples which were his friends that “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13) They didn’t know it at the time, but this is what Jesus did for them, for you and for me. Jesus taught us that a friend serves his or her friend. Jesus taught us that friendship should be sacrificial and selfless. A true friend will give himself, most of all, point his friends to the greatest friend, Jesus Christ. If there is any friendship you need it is with Jesus.